You Deserve A Happy, Healthy and Loving Relationship
All relationships go through tough times. No matter how long you have been together, communication challenges, arguments, jealousy, parenting challenges, sexual concerns or other issues will pressure any relationship. You may notice that you are losing that feeling of love towards your partner. You may be wondering if you made the right relationship decision to get together in the first place. You may be staying awake at night knowing that you still love your partner, but unsure if you are compatible in the long-term.
Whatever issue you are facing, relationship counselling will help. Attending relationship counselling can teach you:
Every couple faces challenges at some point of their relationship.
Very few people know instinctively how to have a happy, healthy and loving long-term relationship. Not many people have been taught the simplest of relationship skills-such as active listening skills or how to manage anger in relationships. In many ways most of us are like explorers trying to reach a new land for the first time. We try our best to have a happy, healthy and loving relationship-but we lack a map to show us the way.
Breakdowns in communication, arguments, feelings of jealousy or other issues cause many happy and loving relationships to change. Couples start to take each other for granted. Resentment over small issues begins to build. Maybe your partner is not as tidy as you would like. Maybe your partner runs late for everything. Maybe he (or she) forgets your birthday or comes home from work grumpy all of the time. We no longer show our best side to our partner-in fact often our partner sees the worst of us. For may years this may be OK-but then many couples reach a point where they no longer feel as in love with each other as they did at the start of their relationship.
Almost all couples go through some version of this process during their relationship. Luckily, some couples are able to navigate these complex issues on their own. These couples however are in the minority-most couples hide their real issues and make do with relationships that are less satisfying than they could be.
This however, does not have to be the case. Relationship counselling can help couples work through any issue. In fact, deciding to see a relationship counsellor is similar to taking your car to the mechanic when it is not running perfectly. Just as a skilled mechanic can help return your car to perfect running order, effective relationship counselling can help you return your relationship to the happy, healthy and loving relationship that you both deserve.
Relationship Counselling will help you and your partner regain the happy, healthy and loving relationship that you both deserve.
Regardless of the state of your present relationship, relationship counselling will help. With the support and guidance of an experienced relationship counsellor, you and your partner will learn simple tools and techniques that will transform your relationship. These tools can help you:
Once you learn these tools, you can apply them throughout your life. Even one hour of relationship counselling can have a profound benefit on you and your partner throughout your lives together.
As a relationship counsellor since the early 2000’s, I have helped hundreds of couples develop stronger and more loving relationships. Some of these couples have come to me with problems that have been distressing them for many, many years. Others simply want to maintain the good relationship that they have built up-avoiding problems before the arise. Whatever issues you are facing, I can help you. Seeking help from a qualified and professional relationship counsellor such as myself is a brave decision. It is also perhaps the best decision that you can make for yourself, your partner and your children.
"I understand that relationship counselling may benefit my relationship, but I still have questions..."
I’m worried that it is too late for our relationship or that my partner simply cannot (or will not) change...
Many people leave it very late before seeking relationship counselling. Throughout the fifteen (or more) years that I have been a relationship counsellor, I have seen many couples create better and more loving relationships, even when it seemed that all hope was lost. It is never too late to help on a relationship!
My partner wont come to relationship counselling
It is common for one partner to be reluctant to come to relationship counselling. Maybe they are fearful of being blamed for the issues in the relationship. In almost all cases, I find that once both people start relationship counselling they realise that the goal of relationship counselling is to improve the relationship-not to blame either person for the relationship problems. However, if your partner simply won’t come to relationship counselling, I can also see you on your own to discuss your relationship options.
We have tried relationship counselling in the past and it didn’t work. How will counselling with you be any different?
Many people have experienced poor relationship counselling. Sometimes this happens when the counsellor sides with one party. Other times the counsellor may not fully understand the issues. I have been a relationship counsellor for over 15 yeas. I am confident that your counselling experience with me will be different to any poor relationship counselling you have had in the past. In fact, you are welcome to share with me your experience of poor relationship counselling so that I am sure of what to approaches to avoid when I am helping you!