Create a Calmer, Happier, and More Loving Relationship, Starting Today
Take our FREE 2-minute quiz to find out exactly how connected your relationship is right now, and get a personalised plan to recreate the closeness, calmness and love you both want.
30+ Years Experience
15,000 Clients Helped
Simple, Proven + Effective
Every Relationship Faces Challenges
Maybe you're having the same argument every week.
Maybe you've stopped talking about anything that matters.
Maybe you still love each other, but you don't like each other very much right now.
I've worked with over 15,000 couples in the last 30 years, and I can tell you this:
What you're going through is normal, it's fixable and you don't have to figure it out alone.
Whether it's constant conflict, lost intimacy, or feeling stuck in the same cycle of negativity, the right guidance and proven tools can help you reduce conflict, rebuild trust and reconnect with the love that brought you together in the first place.
You don't need to have all the answers right now.
You just need to take the first step.
You Can Create A More Loving, Passionate And Connected Relationship
Hello. I'm Alastair Duhs.
I am a relationship counsellor based in Sunnynook, Auckland, and host of the Anger Secrets and Daily Relationship Tips podcasts.
For over 30 years, I've helped thousands of couples work through ongoing conflict, improve communication and build calmer, happier, more loving relationships.
Whether you're facing constant arguments, poor communication or just want to feel close again, I'm here to guide you, whichever path you choose below.
30+
Years In Private Practice
15,000
Over 15,000 Clients Seen
Take our FREE 2-minute quiz to find out exactly how connected your relationship is right now.
Choose the Path That's Right for You
Not every couple needs the same starting point.
Here are three ways to begin.
Take the Free Quiz
Find out exactly how connected your relationship is in just 2 minutes
Answer a few quick questions about your relationship and get an instant, personalized assessment of what's really driving the distance between you, plus a clear recommendation on which approach will help you most.
Best if: You're not sure what the real problem is, or you want to understand your situation better before deciding on next steps.
Enrol In Reconnected™
Reconnected™ is an 8-module online course that teaches you both how to overcome conflict, communicate better and create a more connected relationship.
Work through the course together (or alone), at your own pace, from anywhere.
You'll learn the exact communication tools and conflict resolution strategies I've used with over 15,000 couples in 30+ years, the same ones that work in my counselling sessions, now available as a structured course you can do together.
Best if: You both want to work on this together, you prefer learning at your own pace, and you want proven tools you can practice between sessions.
Book Relationship Counselling
Work directly with me to address your specific challenges - in person or online.
Get personalized, one-on-one guidance tailored to your exact situation. Whether you're dealing with intense conflict, rebuilding trust after an affair, or navigating a particularly complex dynamic, we'll work together to create real, lasting change.
Best if: You want direct support and accountability, you're facing something particularly challenging or sensitive, or one partner isn't fully on board yet.
What Others Say:
Over the years, I believe that I have seen a total of 7-8 counsellors. Without any shred of exaggeration, my experience with Alastair was by far the best. He was extremely helpful and he really truly did change my situation at the time completely into a positive direction. I will never forget what he did for me, and all I need to do is think about him and it renews my faith in people and that they can care and make a difference and things can change.
Sonya, Past Client
Alastair, your counselling skills are exceptional and I never felt judged by you. You made me feel comfortable and safe to open up about my feelings. You were able to help me identify what was really causing issues in our relationship and gave us practical tools to work through them. Thank you for helping my partner and I communicate better and ultimately save our relationship."
Mike, Past Client
Alastair has an amazing ability to make you feel comfortable, safe and cared for. I have learnt so much from him about communication and how to navigate through tough times in my relationship. My partner and I now have a stronger and more loving relationship thanks to Alastair's guidance.
Karen, Past Client
Whichever Path You Choose, You'll:
Eliminate Anger, Arguments and Conflict
Rekindle Romance
Avoid Separation Or Divorce
Communicate More Effectively
Overcome Affairs And Infidelity
Create A More Passionate Sex Life
It's Time To Create The Relationship You Really Want To Have
Frequently Asked Questions
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Your Relationship Can Change, Starting Today
Choosing to work on your relationship is one of the most important decisions you'll ever make, an investment in your connection, your wellbeing, and your future together.
My clients often tell me that taking this step was the turning point: the choice that brought clarity, peace, and renewed love.
Whether you're repairing trust, reigniting intimacy, or just want to communicate better, there's a path here for you.
