It's Time To Create A Happier, Healthier, More Loving Relationship

Every relationship goes through hard patches, even the best ones. 

If you're dealing with:

• Constant fights, arguments, or disagreements

• Jealousy or a loss of trust

• A loss of intimacy or closeness, or

• Almost any other relationship issue

You're not alone, and your relationship doesn't have to stay this way.

I specialize in working with couples who've become disconnected or struggle to communicate, as well as couples who feel like they've almost given up, or whose conflict has become particularly intense.

If that's you, I can help. 

My Background

More than 30 years ago, I made the biggest decision of my professional life.

In 1992, I graduated with a Masters in Quantum Physics from Auckland University. Two years later, I finished my second year as a Patent Attorney. Despite working 60 to 70 hour weeks and out-earning most of the partners, I wasn't happy. I'd spent years understanding inventions, and years before that understanding the fundamental laws of nature. What I actually wanted to understand was people. So I made the decision to quit law and train as a psychotherapist instead.

In the 30 years since, I've worked with over 15,000 individuals and couples. Many had almost given up on their relationship. Many were struggling with anger, or recovering from an affair. Most of them saw real change: their arguments settled, they started talking to each other again, and the love and trust they'd lost started coming back.

That's why I don't just rely on textbook theory - I know what actually works because I've seen it work, hundreds of times, with couples who felt exactly like you do now.

Whatever you're facing, proven tools that actually work exist, and I can help you find them.

Professional Background

Over the last 30 years, I've worked with over 15,000 individuals and couples on every kind of relationship issue - from communication breakdowns and growing apart, to rebuilding trust after affairs, to navigating intense conflict.

What sets my approach apart is that I focus on practical communication skills that actually work. I've seen firsthand, thousands of times, how couples can go from barely speaking to each other to having real, productive conversations again. Even in high-conflict situations, the right tools can make all the difference.

Early in my career, I worked as an individual counsellor, family therapist, and relationship counsellor for organizations including Methodist Mission Northern, Richmond Fellowship, Home and Family Society, and North Harbour Living Without Violence. For the last ten years, I've worked solely in private practice, seeing couples for relationship issues of every kind. I'm also currently the chairperson of Respect Trust, a domestic violence agency, which keeps me closely connected to the wider field, not just my own client work.

I hold a Post-Graduate Diploma in Psychotherapy from Auckland Institute of Technology and a Masters in Quantum Physics from Auckland University, and I've been a member of the New Zealand Association of Counsellors since 2000.

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Outside Of Work

I maintain a wide variety of interests outside the counselling room: I'm an active amateur astronomer, a keen chess player, a 5-time New Zealand Ironman finisher and a kayak enthusiast who loves getting out on the water around New Zealand's coast, dolphins, seals, with the occasional whale included.