Create A Happy, Healthy and Loving Marriage
- Are constant arguments threatening to destroy your marriage?
- Has the quality of your marriage dropped to the point where you are wondering if you should stay together anymore?
- Has it been a long time since you and your partner shared a deep and satisfying sense of intimacy and connection?
All marriages go through difficult times. Financial issues, disagreements about how to raise your children (or step-children), work pressures, issues associated with drugs or alcohol and other issues can drive couples apart. It may be a long time since you really talked to each other. It may be a long time since you went through a week (or even a day) without an argument. It may be weeks (or months) since you made love together.
It may be a long time since you went through a week (or even a day) without an argument.
Unresolved conflict can build up in any marriage, leading to less communication and closeness. You may think that your husband or wife doesn’t understand you. You may be struggling with anger and arguments. You may be feeling completely lost-knowing that your marriage can be better than it is, but not sure how to change it. Or you may have given up-deciding that it is better to accept things as they are and not “rock the boat”. You may be living in a “half-marriage”-getting on with the daily tasks of going to work and raising the children-but missing out on the closeness, intimacy, friendship and love that a truly fulfilling marriage can offer.
Every marriage will experience significant challenges at some point. For some couples these challenges may last only days or weeks. For others, these challenges may stretch from weeks into months and months-leading to both partners getting increasingly desperate and despondent about their marriage.
One of the reasons that it is hard for couples to escape from these challenging times is that few of us have learned the skills to have a happy marriage. Many of us lack role models that could teach us these skills. Our parents may have lacked good communication or conflict resolution skills. We may have grown up with unhelpful patterns of responding to our own anger or feelings of disappointment. Or we may have been raised in a home that is so different to our partner’s that any way of responding to marital issues simply do not apply in our marriage.
One of the reasons that it is hard for couples to escape from these challenging times is that few of us have learned the skills to have a happy marriage.
Fortunately, despite all the challenges of marriage, there is hope. Marriage counselling can help you and your partner work through any issue in your marriage. Marriage counselling can also teach you skills that you have never learned anywhere else. These skills can make a profound difference in your marriage. Even a few sessions of marriage counselling can lead to change that can last the rest of your life!
If you are stuck in an unhappy marriage, marriage counselling can transform your relationship. Having a third party present as you talk about your relationship helps you see issues from other perspectives. A professional and experienced marriage counsellor will help you find practical ways to deal with relationship problems that you may never have thought of. Marriage counsellors can also teach you skills for relating to each other more positively-leading to a relationship that can feel as good as (or better!) than your relationship was when you first got together.
As a marriage counsellor for almost 20 years, I have helped hundreds of couples develop stronger, happier and more loving marriages. These couples have come to see me for many issues, including:
- anger management
- communication skills
- parenting or step-parenting issues
- rebuilding trust after an affair
- developing more closeness or intimacy in a marriage.
"I understand that marriage counselling can benefit my relationship, but I still have questions..."
How long does marriage counselling take?
Unlike some marriage counsellors, I focus on helping couples gain practical skills to improve their marriage as fast as possible. Most couples I see experience significant improvements in their marriage in as little as 3-5 sessions. Almost all couples I see experience significant improvements in their marriage within the first 8 sessions.
How long are marriage counselling sessions and how much do they cost?
I offer two sessions lengths. My regular session length is 50 minutes. The charge for regular sessions is $160. I also offer “extended” sessions for couples who may be facing complex issues or who may want to make as fast progress as possible. Extended sessions are 80 minutes long and cost $200. Both regular and extended sessions are an effective way to improve your marriage. Investing in marriage counselling now can save considerable psychological (and financial) pain later on.
I have had marriage counselling before and it didn't work.
Many people have experienced marriage counselling that has been ineffective. Sometimes this is due to the timing of the counselling. One or both partners in the relationship, for example, may not have been totally committed to the counselling. At other times, the counsellor may not have been a good fit for the couple. As a marriage counsellor for almost twenty years I am totally confident that I can provide you with effective marriage counselling. If however, you feel for any reason that counselling with myself is not useful for you, please let me know and we can discuss other options (or counsellors) for you.