In order to rebuild a healthy sex life you and your partner need to avoid what is known as the “chasing dynamic”. In this dynamic one person wants sex more often than the other and pursues it.

In these situations it is more effective to take a step back and look at the relationship in its entirety. What is the level of emotional connection in the relationship? Is a lack of emotional connection the reason why one partner does not want a physical connection?

If this is the case there are many ways to help build an emotional connection between couples that make establishing a healthy sex life more likely!

Many couples benefit from agreeing to a temporary “sex break” where couples can focus on increasing levels of non-sexual physical connection. This can include kissing, holding hands, hugging and non-sexual massage.

Once couples gain more comfort with non-sexual physical contact they can eliminate their “sex break” and re-develop a healthy sexual connection.

There are 13 things that almost all couples who have a healthy sex life do, and that couples with unhealthy sex lives do not do.

Now it is no-ones fault that most couples have never heard of these 13 things. But as a result of not knowing what these 13 things are, many couples allow their sex lives to slowly dissipate until it is poor or non-existent.

In just one or two counselling sessions I can teach you what these 13 things are and how to apply them in your relationship.  Once you understand these 13 things, you and your partner will never go back to unhappy sex life that has plagued your relationship for years.