Based On Your Answers You Have Given, You And Your Partner Are Primarily Struggling With...

A Poor Or Non-Existent Sex-Life

The good news however, is that you and your partner can build a healthy sex-life in just a few counselling sessions.

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Did you know that you and your partner can rebuild a healthy sex life with each other in just a few counselling sessions, even if you are living in a virtual “sexual desert” or haven’t had sex for years?

I know this sounds crazy because we’re so used to hearing that you need months or years of counselling to help a relationship to change, but the reality is far from this. 

In fact, on this page I’m going to share three secrets with you that form the backbone of how I help couples rebuild a healthy sex life.

But first....

Who Am I?

Alastair Duhs

My name is Alastair Duhs and I am a specialist relationship counsellor based in Auckland, New Zealand. 

In the last 25 years I have helped thousands of couples rebuild a healthy sex life with other and develop more loving, passionate and connected relationships, often in just a few counselling sessions. 


Years In Private Practice


Over 6,500 Clients Seen

Relationship counselling will help you rebuild a healthy sex life with each other in just a few counselling sessions.

Rebuild your sex life in just a few counselling sessions.

So what are these three secrets to rebuilding a healthy sex life?


The first secret is...

In order to rebuild a healthy sex life you and your partner need to avoid what is known as the “chasing dynamic”. In this dynamic one person wants sex more often than the other and pursues it.

In these situations it is more effective to take a step back and look at the relationship in its entirety. What is the level of emotional connection in the relationship? Is a lack of emotional connection the reason why one partner does not want a physical connection?

If this is the case there are many ways to help build an emotional connection between couples that make establishing a healthy sex life more likely!


The second secret is...

Many couples benefit from agreeing to a temporary “sex break” where couples can focus on increasing levels of non-sexual physical connection. This can include kissing, holding hands, hugging and non-sexual massage.

Once couples gain more comfort with non-sexual physical contact they can eliminate their “sex break” and re-develop a healthy sexual connection.


The third secret is...

There are 13 things that almost all couples who have a healthy sex life do, and that couples with unhealthy sex lives do not do.

Now it is no-ones fault that most couples have never heard of these 13 things. But as a result of not knowing what these 13 things are, many couples allow their sex lives to slowly dissipate until it is poor or non-existent.

In just one or two counselling sessions I can teach you what these 13 things are and how to apply them in your relationship.  Once you understand these 13 things, you and your partner will never go back to unhappy sex life that has plagued your relationship for years.

Over the years, I believe that I have seen a total of 7-8 counsellors. Without any shred of exaggeration, my experience with Alastair was by far the best. He was extremely helpful and he really truly did change my situation at the time completely into a positive direction. I will never forget what he did for me, and all I need to do is think about him and it renews my faith in people and that they can care and make a difference and things can change.




Create The Relationship You Really Want To Have.

Relationship counselling has been one of the best experiences we have been through as a couple. I have learned how to control my anger in arguments and I am listening to my partner far more than I have before. We are much closer as a couple and look forward to our future together.



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It's Time To Create A Loving, Passionate And Connected Relationship

After working with thousands of couples over the last 25 years I have developed some powerful tools that I know will help you and your partner rebuild a healthy sex life quickly.

While it can take some time to put these tools into practice, I know that once you understand these tools you can achieve your goal of rebuilding your sex life and creating a more loving, passionate and connected relationship far faster than you might think possible!

Alastair Duhs, Relationship Expert
433 Lake Road, Takapuna, Auckland