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Did you know that you and your partner can learn to overcome the destructive effects of anger or arguments in just 2-3 counselling sessions, even if just about every discussion you have at the moment ends up in a heated argument or if you have tried to control your anger in the past and failed?
I know this sounds extreme because we’re so used to hearing that you need months or years of counselling to help a relationship to change, but the reality is far from this.
In fact, on this page I’m going to share three secrets with you that form the backbone of how I help couples control their anger and stop the arguments that plague their relationship.
But first...
Who Am I?
My name is Alastair Duhs and I am a relationship expert based in Sunnynook, Auckland.
Over the last 30 years I have helped thousands of couples communicate better with other and develop more loving, passionate and connected relationships, often in just 2-3 counselling sessions.
30
Years In Private Practice
15,000
Over 15,000 Clients Seen
Relationship counselling will help you reduce anger and arguments in just 2-3 counselling sessions.
So what are the three secrets to overcoming the destructive effects of anger or arguments?
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The first secret is...
In order to control your anger and stop the arguments that plague your relationship, you and your partner must become aware of when an argument is starting. In fact, without this awareness you cannot do anything to change the course of the argument.
However, when you are aware that an argument is starting, you both have many options that can deescalate the argument, rather than fuel it.
I can help you recognise when you are becoming angry or when an argument is starting, and how to deescalate the argument.
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The Second secret is...
No matter how angry you are or what you and our partner are arguing about, the purpose of good communication is not to win an argument, but to understand each others perspective.
In other words, in almost all cases it is more important to understand your partners perspective, rather than try to “win” an argument.
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The Third secret is...
There are some simple communication tools that improve the ways couples communicate almost instantly.
It is no-ones fault that most couples have never been taught these simple communication tools. However, as a result of not knowing what these tools are, many couples experience frequent anger or arguments that brings their relationship to its knees.
In just two to three counselling sessions I can teach you the communication skills that you need to know to break-out of the destructive cycle of anger or arguments that are causing you and your partner so much pain.
And once you know these skills, you and your partner will never go back to the same arguments that have plagued your relationship for years.
What Others Say:
Over the years, I believe that I have seen a total of 7-8 counsellors. Without any shred of exaggeration, my experience with Alastair was by far the best. He was extremely helpful and he really truly did change my situation at the time completely into a positive direction. I will never forget what he did for me, and all I need to do is think about him and it renews my faith in people and that they can care and make a difference and things can change.
Sonya
Past Client
Alastair, your counselling skills are exceptional and I never felt judged by you. You made me feel comfortable and safe to open up about my feelings. You were able to help me identify what was really causing issues in our relationship and gave us practical tools to work through them. Thank you for helping my partner and I communicate better and ultimately save our relationship."
MIKE
Past Client
Alastair has an amazing ability to make you feel comfortable, safe and cared for. I have learnt so much from him about communication and how to navigate through tough times in my relationship. My partner and I now have a stronger and more loving relationship thanks to Alastair's guidance.
KAREN
Past Client