Based On Your Answers You Have Given, You And Your Partner Are Primarily Struggling With...

Anger Or Arguments

The good news however, is that you and your partner can learn to overcome the destructive effects of anger or arguments in just 2-3 counselling sessions.

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Did you know that you and your partner can learn to overcome the destructive effects of anger or arguments in just 2-3 counselling sessions, even if just about every discussion you have at the moment ends up in a heated argument or if you have tried to control your anger in the past and failed?

I know this sounds crazy because we’re so used to hearing that you need months or years of counselling to help a relationship to change, but the reality is far from this. 

In fact, on this page I’m going to share three secrets with you that form the backbone of how I help couples control their anger and stop the arguments that plague their relationship.

But first....

Who Am I?

Alastair Duhs

My name is Alastair Duhs and I am a specialist relationship counsellor based in Auckland, New Zealand. 

In the last 25 years I have helped thousands of couples control their anger and stop arguing with each other, often in just 2-3 counselling sessions. 


Years In Private Practice


Over 6,500 Clients Seen

Relationship counselling will help you overcome the destructive effects of anger or arguments in just 2-3 counselling sessions.

Overcome anger or arguments in just 2-3 counselling sessions.

So what are the three secrets to overcoming the destructive effects of anger or arguments?


The first secret is that...

In order to control your anger and stop the arguments that plague your relationship, you and your partner must become aware of when an argument is starting. In fact, without this awareness you cannot do anything to change the course of the argument.

However, when you are aware that an argument is starting, you both have many options that can deescalate the argument, rather than fuel it.

I can help you recognise when you are becoming angry or when an argument is starting, and how to deescalate the argument.


The second secret is that...

No matter how angry you are or what you and our partner are arguing about, the purpose of good communication is not to win an argument, but to understand each others perspective.

In other words, in almost all cases it is more important to understand your partners perspective, rather than try to “win” an argument.


The third secret is...

There are some simple communication tools that improve the ways couples communicate almost instantly.

It is no-ones fault that most couples have never been taught these simple communication tools. However, as a result of not knowing what these tools are, many couples experience frequent anger or arguments that brings their relationship to its knees.

In just two to three counselling sessions I can teach you the communication skills that you need to know to break out of the destructive cycle of anger or arguments that are causing you and your partner so much pain

And once you know these skills, you and your partner will usually never go back to the same arguments that have plagued your relationship for years.

Over the years, I believe that I have seen a total of 7-8 counsellors. Without any shred of exaggeration, my experience with Alastair was by far the best. He was extremely helpful and he really truly did change my situation at the time completely into a positive direction. I will never forget what he did for me, and all I need to do is think about him and it renews my faith in people and that they can care and make a difference and things can change.




Create The Relationship You Really Want To Have.

Relationship counselling has been one of the best experiences we have been through as a couple. I have learned how to control my anger in arguments and I am listening to my partner far more than I have before. We are much closer as a couple and look forward to our future together.



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It's Time To Create A Loving, Passionate And Connected Relationship

After working with thousands of couples over the last 25 years I have developed some powerful tools that I know will help you and your partner control your anger and stop the arguments that plague your relationship almost immediately.

While it can take some time to put these tools into practice, I know that once you understand these tools you can achieve your goal of learning to learning how to control your anger, and stopping your arguments far faster than you might think possible!

Alastair Duhs, Relationship Expert
433 Lake Road, Takapuna, Auckland